I’ve studied human mating professionally for the past 20 years. I’ve chronicled a variety of occurrences over that time, from the most evil kind of sexual treachery to what men and women look for in a partner. I’ve learned about the incredibly inventive ways that men and women deceive and manipulate one another.
I’ve researched mate snatchers, stalkers who are obsessed, sexual predators, and spouse killers. But despite exploring the shadowy sides of human mating, I haven’t wavered in my conviction that true love exists. While being in love is frequent, finding real love is uncommon, and I think only a select few are fortunate enough to do so.
The hypnotic attraction, the ideational preoccupation, the sexual afterglow, the profound self-sacrifice, and the urge to unite DNA are well-known signs of regular love and are well understood by many. True love, however, follows its own path across mysterious terrain. It is not aware of fences, barriers, or borders.
It is hard to define, defies modern measurement, and seems illogical from a scientific standpoint. However, I am aware that true love does exist. I just can’t back it up. We’ll start by examining the first of these descriptions of “love.” Romantic feelings, particularly those connected to what is referred to as eros, are risky.
Without virtue, it transforms into a destructive force, a type of lunacy that is damaging to both oneself and others. There are numerous instances of this passionate “love” in literature. In The Iliad, Paris and Helen’s adulterous connection causes Troy to be destroyed, while Agamemnon and Achilles’ rivalry, which was stoked by their disordered desires for women who were not their husbands, had disastrous effects on the entire Greek army and resulted in numerous fatalities.
