Sibling connections are among the most important ones we can create. Our siblings go with us through life, unlike parents who leave too soon, lovers, and kids who arrive too late. The relationships we have with our brothers and sisters deeply define and mould who we are. When we have siblings, we are conscious that we are not alone. The sibling link—a powerful emotional bond between siblings—unites them.
The tie between siblings is not socially defined because the relationship between brothers and sisters might be infinitely variable. A “bond” can be a thing that ties things together, a promise or agreement, a link or web of links. Naturally, as parents, we rely on our older kids to “keep an eye” on their younger siblings. I’m sure I’ve asked this question to my oldest son a few times. My kids learn to look out for and support one another, though, generally from me.
Expecting one sibling to always serve as the guardian could lead to conflict and resentment. Some older siblings feel enormous pressure to keep younger siblings happy and safe, despite the fact that younger siblings typically crave more freedom and acceptance of their own skills and abilities. As soon as you notice a beginning of collaboration, physically step back. When I hear my children gathering their chosen building materials or talking about an upcoming pretend play scenario, I divert my attention to something else.