It’s important to spend time alone and with others. Everyone requires downtime for rest, introspection, and leisure activities. That time is frequently lost when you’re married, especially if you have children. Do everything you think will enrich your life. Go out with your pals. Attend a course. Volunteer. Once you and your husband are back together, you’ll value each other even more. It’s important to treat each other properly and with respect when you disagree, even though you won’t always agree. Consider your spouse’s viewpoint carefully. Don’t allow yourself to get too angry or frustrated. Take a break if you need to gather your thoughts. Bring it up again later, when you’re both feeling more at ease. Deal with problems calmly so that you can both make a small contribution. John Gottman, Ph.D., says that criticism, disdain, acting defensively, and stonewalling are all big problems for a marriage. As a marriage engages in more of these harmful habits, the risk of divorce rises. His extensive research and work with couples over the years has shown that partners who stay together know how to dispute respectfully and take ownership of their actions. Also, they are more likely to act quickly when someone wants to make up after an argument or rebuild a relationship. Sometimes everyone makes mistakes. Your spouse’s actions may have wounded or upset you, which may have made you frustrated or even angry. But it’s important to deal with your feelings, let them go, and move on. Don’t bring up the past all the time. Never fail to respect the obligations you have to your spouse, your family, and the life you have built together. We should spiritually and daily edify one another. The advice below can help your marriage persist even if you, your partner, or your relationship may change over time.